Do you ever feel like there’s more to life? More meaning? More fulfillment? Do you feel like you should be doing more? You know, give a little more get a little more? Know what I mean?? Sometimes when I feel frustrated with how certain things play out at home, or I want to create an even more stable environment, I figure my best bet is to either make a change within the circumstance or make a change in my attitude. Both require practice and commitment.
And speaking of practice, when we get in the habit of doing things – beneficial things – doesn’t it feel like an accomplishment? Do you ever feel a sense of pride? No, really! Aren’t you proud of yourself when you make a shift in your behavior pattern and notice you’re doing involuntary things that render, oh let’s say, a clean house or prompt arrival to important destinations?!
Well, these little tendencies my friends are habits! The goods ones will get you places, change your mindset, help you to look at the brighter side of things. They can change your life! You are in control of you so are you ready to start practicing and adding more quality to your life?
Here we go!
Drink More Water
Hydration is not only beneficial for body functioning (yep, it helps keep you regular, know what I’m sayin’?), it’s great for your skin, weight-control, flushes out nasty toxins and gives you more energy.
If you’re not a huge fan of water but want to achieve this goal and form a good habit, add some lemon or fresh fruit to your water for a little extra umph and drink up!
For me, room temperature water is so much easier to get down and most of the time I just chug a bottle and keep it moving.
When things come to mind that you are grateful for, stop and say a little prayer of thanksgiving to the Lord. Or, try to think of something every day that you are blessed to have or to be doing and take a moment to allow your heart to give thanks for it.
If we don’t learn to be grateful for what we have it can be easy to get caught up in a routine that only satisfies our wants. But, what if, instead of wishing for something you don’t have, simply change your mindset and find the good in what’s already there.
Take a loved one, for example. If all you focus on is the things that loved one does wrong or what they say that annoys you, you’ll be forever welcoming misery into your life.
Instead, try to notice and verbally acknowledge the good you see in them and from them. That shift of focus will segue into an appreciation for them as a person and cast a brighter light on the good and positive things they do. You’ll start thanking them for what they’re doing and you know what comes next? They’ll do that thing you like even more.
I mean, who doesn’t like a pat on the back, a thank you, and show of appreciation? As a parent, think of what praising your children does. What kind of results do you see when you praise and compliment little precious for the good they’ve done? They’ll do more, right?
Prepare For Tomorrow The Day or Night Before
Being prepared always pays off. It saves time, frustration, and energy. So, I won’t tell you how many times we’ve bolted out of the door in the mornings for school because the snooze button was pressed one too many times, clothes weren’t ironed, that assignment wasn’t already printed, or breakfast wasn’t ready and there were only 5 minutes to make it.
Wanna make life easier? Just prepare. Do what you can do ahead of time.
Go ahead and set your clothes out for the next day (kiddos included). Iron them or toss them in the dryer if necessary. Pack lunch and store it in the fridge. If necessary, prep breakfast. You can do something easy like overnight oats.
Nix the Negativity
Things that make you sad, do more harm than good, hinder you from spiritual/moral growth is negative.
When you immediately spot the negative, think to yourself, “is this something within my control?” If so, let it go. If it’s not in your control, pray about it and ask God to help you deal with it accordingly. Use His word and your wisdom to help you navigate through the circumstances keeping a positive attitude and hopeful outlook.
Create routines where you can – day or night.
I really believe routines create normalcy, even if it’s just one. If you currently don’t follow any start with one thing you can do differently or add to your day/night.
Maybe try making your bed in the mornings. This can create some needed energy and spur on a “can-do” attitude to help you conquer you day.
Would you consider emptying the sink and making sure all dishes are in the dishwasher before going to bed?
What about picking up the baby’s toys at the end of the day. I know, I know, they’ll be right back scattered all over the floor the very next day but at least creating a positive habit of cleaning up will help to de-clutter (if only for the night) and create a more open, relaxing environment.
Or, you could try winding down for the evening without your phone, tablet, or computer. Perhaps a cup of herbal tea, an interesting book, live Indian flute music with rain, or a good blog post will suit you 😉
Take Time For Yourself
Even if it’s just 5 minutes a day, take some “me” time.
Need to release some tension? Take a few deep breaths. Relax your body by releasing tension starting from the crown of your head, then your face, your neck, shoulders, arms, chest, and so on until you have completely let your body sink into your seat or bed. Pay close attention to each body part as you move from your head to your feet. Include ears, mouth, belly, fingers, toes, the who shebang!
Perhaps some soothing fragrance and a nice bath are what you need. Light up some candles, set the ambiance, pick a relaxing playlist (youtubed, pandora, amazon music all has music specifically for relaxing. I love the live Native American flute music with rain).
Or, if you’ve got a good bit of time on your hands, would you consider taking yourself out on a date? I mean it. Date yourself, sometimes!
About five years ago, I got all dolled up and took myself right down to our local performance center for an African Jazz Dance Performance. Ah-ma-zing! I looked good, I felt good, and I was so happy to have witnessed such splendor!
Ok, so if you’re thinking my little date is nice but you still don’t want to do that, well I’ll just throw some things out there…find a hobby, hit up the town, Netflix it, put down your phone and just be for a few, steep some herbal tea and if the weather permits, sit outside and enjoy.
Whatever “me time” means to you, do it.
And just for laughs…https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mfj_hRDGTV4
Surround Yourself with Positive People
You hear people talk about their ‘tribe’, right? You know, those people they surround themselves with who are loving and supportive. Can you say you have a tribe of your own? People who are positive, loving, supportive, caring, available for you, selfless, and so on and so on, these people are in your tribe.
To take it a step further, find positive, inspiring people to follow on social media, a podcast, or grab an influential book to read.
Don’t have time to sit down and read as you want? Audible is a great app to use for a full-length or quick book if you’re in the car or have your hands full. Sometimes all it takes is a little inspo to get the job done.
And, for the negative people in your life, try to see them as often as possible. Remember, we’re surrounding ourselves with positivity! People who are negative, don’t believe in you, make you feel bad, hate on you, and are just draining to be around, are not good for the sould. Cut them off if you have to.
That’s right! Sometimes it takes a little faking it until you make it. Plus, smiling can boost your mood. Those little muscles that make you smile send messages to your brain that says you’re happy. So give some genuine smiles today and try giving one of those smiles to someone you see 🙂
Do you have more habits and tips in mind? Please share in the comments below!